Do Not Ask “Why Me?”

May 6, 2009

The meaning and the name Arthur Ashe to many young people is simply a label attached to a pair of a world famous tennis shoes brand. But Arthur Ashe the tennis player was respected for his gentle-manliness and his commitment to his faith.

Stricken with AIDS because of an infected blood transfusion he had during a heart surgery in 1983, the legendary Wimbledon player kept a very positive outlook in life. As he was dying, he received letters from his fans all over the world, one of which conveyed: “Why does GOD have to select you for such a bad disease”?

Arthur Ashe replied: “The world over — 50 million children start playing tennis, 5 million learn to play tennis, 500,000 learn professional tennis, 50,000 come to the circuit, 5000 reach the grand slam, 50 reach Wimbledon, 4 to semi final, 2 to the finals, when I was holding a cup I never asked GOD ‘Why me?’.

And today in pain I should not be asking GOD ‘Why me?’ ”

Have you ever caught yourself in a difficult situation and then the words come out of your mouth saying. “But God, why me?” My experience in most of these cases is that God never answers you the “why” question because even if He does you and I would either be so scared to death or we simply would not understand.

His ways and thoughts are always higher than ours and if we carry the capacity to understand then that would make us gods and the world would be in a more dangerous situation.

Hindsight is always 50-50. Give it time. Live with faith and trust in Him. And in a little while we would know the answer. I speak out of experience. “Why me?” Maybe the question should have been, “Why not me?”

Aren’t you glad that on the cross Jesus did not say, “But why me?”

Aren’t you glad that Resurrection Sunday answers the “Why” question and has provided the world with the answer as to how one can find salvation? One of the thieves said, “If you are the Christ then you can save us and yourself.” At the point of death and in pain he still mocks and scoffs. But the other thief never asked “Why me?” Instead he said “We deserve this and then simply put his trust in the One he acknowledged as King when he said “remember me when you are in Your Kingdom.” Aren’t you glad Jesus did not say, “Why me? Go talk to your pastor or go talk to your priest.”

There are many people today whose jobs, finances and businesses are being challenged and this is why many are asking the “Why me?” question.

Somebody came up with this beautiful material and sent it to me via SMS. Maybe this would help:

Happiness keeps you Sweet, Trials keep you Strong,

Sorrow keeps you Human, Failure keeps you humble and Success keeps you glowing, but only Faith & Attitude Keeps you going… Another beautiful material credited to anonymity says: The road to success is not straight. There is a curve called Failure.

A loop called Confusion. Speed bumps called Friends.

Red light called Enemies. Caution lights called Family. There are flats called Jobs.

But if they have a spare tire called Determination, an engine called Perseverance, insurance called Faith, a driver called Jesus, we will make it to a place called success.

God has blessed me beyond my expectations. And when I am in quiet meditation I ask the question, “But why me? Why would You choose this sinner to be heard by kings and princes, respected by the old and the young and to be honored by the poor and the rich alike? Why me? I don’t deserve this.”

And when the slander comes, the cowardly attacks, the false accusations, the hatchet job, the pre-meditated planned negative PR campaigns, the back stabbing, the backbiting..…Maybe in your case, you lose your job….an injustice done against you…your friends cheated you….your relatives betray you……maybe rather than asking “Why me?” we would turn our gaze heavenward and say, “Is it me Lord?”

And then Scriptures remind me to share in the fellowship of the suffering of Christ….and that’s when I understand” “Then it’s got to be me because I am with You.”

And there is no need for further explanation.

This for me is the message of the Cross.

What is yours?

This Post Has 5 Comments

  1. franze

    Well, a very touching story. Life is like a book .Pages flipped everyday until we reach the end cover . How well the story ends? did the reader feel the story ? will it affect his life? or Will he share the good news to all and be an inspiration to many? or after the story there will be a question? Why it had an impact on me? Maybe a million in one ways, GOD convey his message of Hope in different forms…. Instead we question HIM, Why? Thank him for we wake up in the morning and we experience GOD’s gift.. that’s life

  2. dan

    Very true, most of the time we question God when things do not go the way we plan it or when we are not happy about how things are going. But when good things happen we are overwhelmed, blinded, and see things differently.

  3. Hermenoel Soriano

    Sir, kudos for this very touching story. I’ve been reading Philippine Star for quite long time now and had to admit it, I’m just into the Entertainment Section. But, just one time when I get back to my apartment after my shift, I tried to collate all my copies and had the chance to read. I got engrossed to your column, Sir. I really love the way you express ideas, so clear and direct to the point. I’m into writing as well and from now on, I will keep on reading your column. You’ve got a lot of ideas to share and its really beneficial for us. If you would allow me Sir, I’ll be more than glad to spread your brilliant ideas on my Multiply account’ list of friends. I wanted to learn things from you as well and not just benefiting me. Sir, good luck to your career and may God bless you more! Keep us educated Sir. Thanks for your time, till next time.

  4. bravhart_19

    Truly the best inspirational topic..
    Mabuhay ka Mr Francis Kong…

  5. Bonnie C. Claudio

    I’ve been a passive admirer of how the Lord works in you, till now. We first met years back when we planned out a Couple’s Retreat at the Phinma facilities in Tagaytay. It was for the members of Bread From Heaven Christian Fellowship in BF Homes Pque. Pastor Clem Guillermo was the other distinguished speaker.
    We learned a lot from God and from you. I’m blessed to be exposed to your work and your writing. You’ve created a good dent in our lives.

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