Face The Facts Not Your Stories

July 26, 2011

When I was a kid I loved the circus. The lions and the tamer. The flying trapeze but the part I really loved was the clowns. The moment they enter the ring my heart would pump with excitement. I always loved to laugh and the clowns really made me laugh.

The elephant act was cool too. I came across a discovery about elephant tricks in circus.  Have you ever wondered why the elephants—the strongest and largest animals in the circus—don’t simply walk away?

The trainers have discovered a way to make them helpless.

When an elephant is born, it only takes about two weeks for him to get strong enough to break his chains, but his trainers use this time to their advantage. The baby elephant, chained to a tree, will make many attempts to break free before giving up, but once he has given up, that’s it. Although he grows larger physically, in his mind, the chain is still stronger than he is. In effect, he imprisons himself.

The chain therefore is a constant reminder that they are helpless.

A lot of us live our lives the same way. People have mastered the art and science of learned helplessness.

Rather than becoming the stars of the show, these helpless people in the work place have self-designed themselves into being clowns. They have made decisions either constantly or unwittingly that have led people to laugh at them. This is so sad because this does not have to be.

At the core of this problem lies the person’s inability to determine the difference between what are facts and what are stories. The stories they have heard may have come from the people they love. Stories come in forms like:

  • “You’re not as good as your brother /sister….”
  • “You’ve brought bad luck to the family….”
  • “You’ll never make it…..”
  • “You’re just like your dad/mom, you’re a loser….”

These are stories not facts but somehow they imprison, they form chains.


Here are some other examples of what stories sounds like and they mostly come from your primary story teller and that is YOU!:

  • “I shouldn’t have to do this—it’s not part of my job description.”
  • “Other people should be more dedicated and motivated. Nothing would get done around here if it weren’t for me.”
  • “There’s not enough time to get it all done.”
  • “Our department is always having to clean up after others’ mistakes.”
  • “The boss just doesn’t get it.”
  • “He is always undermining me.”
  • My coworkers don’t appreciate me.”
  • “Management only cares about the bottom line.”
  • “I’m underpaid for what I do here.”
  • “It would be finished if they’d stop interrupting me with last-minute changes.”

These are stories. These are not facts.

You and I need to stop arguing with reality. The reality is that God does not invent junk. Humans do it to themselves. We imprison ourselves with the chains formed by the stories we hear or the stories we invent ourselves.

We have the free will to choose. We can choose to rise up above our adversities, ignore the attacks of the envious, labor and learn and accept challenges and retain humility as success comes or we can choose to stay with our stories and ignore the facts.

Samuel Clemens says it well a long time ago when he said, “The problem with most people is not that they set their goals too high and fail to achieve it but that they set their goals too low and they attain it.”

God has given us a head to think, a heart to feel, hands to labor and feet to move towards our goals with the purpose of adding value to the world and never for the sole aim of personal glory or aggrandizement. Starting tomorrow as you go to the work place, stick to the facts and drop those stories.





This Post Has 17 Comments

  1. chris

    Love it!
    Thanks for this again awesome post to get to the workplace and keep the smile on my face amidst the adversities.

  2. Tesskomh

    Your articles are truly inspiring.
    I love posting them in our office bulletin board.
    Thanks a lot for the inspiration!
    God bless you and your family.

  3. evelyn

    thank you for the words…and from this day on i know what i am going to decide..

  4. Rex Sacayan

    Nice one. Just like most of the media and ads, telling people most stories not facts.


    I agree with you Francis, it is really hard to get away from the stories that we heard and we made. It is only by the grace of GOD that we can focus on how special we are when HE created us. Thank you again for an inspiring article. God bless you.

  6. kahlel

    great article! really motivating..yes, we should not allow ourselves to entertain those stories created to destroy us..instead, we should look at the facts of life which are there to shape us!

  7. ellen

    Thank you for inspiring.

  8. joyce guanzon

    when they always compare me with my sister…
    i tried my best to stop them…
    and always hope that my younger sister doesn’t hear that again…
    because as wonder how i could make up for all the lost times…
    when time seems so helpless…
    in the end i told my sister… for whatever happens… God has a reason.
    you had your choice and you did… so please be happy. 🙂

  9. vivsasuncion

    Wonderful and Inspiring! Keep going Mr Kong….

  10. Boizer Larida

    Sir, I really like your articles. you one of those who inspire me a lot. thanks for your book “only the real matters, one day at a time and just when you think you can’t do it…do it.”

  11. Chelly Abariso

    Sir, this one got did get me. I’m new to my job, and I am very much surrounded by different people. I do encounter those feelings, and I believe that this article is a wake up call for me to appreciate everyone around me, even my job. Thank you so much.

  12. Olive

    You are correct Sir Francis.

    We are created in the image of God, and so we have great potentials.
    I have also learned that the line ‘I am born this way’ is not good. It shows weakness if you used it.


  13. Aurefe A. Mendoza

    Thank you for this inspiring message. I will share this to my office mates during our pep talk tomorrow. God bless you and your family.

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