Be a Positive Persuader

July 30, 2009

A married couple was driving down the highway doing 90 kilometers per hour. The wife wanted to persuade her husband to agree for a separation.

The husband was behind the wheel.

His wife looked over at him and said, “Honey, I know we’ve been married for 15 years, but, I want to separate.”

The husband said nothing, but slowly increases speed to 100 kilometers per hour.

She continued to persuade her husband.

She then said, “I don’t want you to try to talk me out of it, because I’ve been having an affair with your best friend, and he’s a better lover than you.”

Again the husband was not persuaded.

He stayed quiet and just sped up as he clenched his hands on the wheel.

She said, “I want the house.” Again the husband speeds up, and now was doing 110 kilometers per hour.

She said, “I want the kids too.”

The husband just keeps driving faster, and faster, until he’s up to 120 kilometers per hour.

She said, “I want the car, the checking account, and all the credit cards too.” The husband slowly started to veer toward a bridge overpass piling, as she said, “Is there anything you want?”

The husband said, “No, I’ve got everything I need right here.”

She asked, “What’s that?”

The husband replied just before they hit the wall at 130 kilometers per hour,

“I’ve got the airbag and you don’t” One thing for sure here is that the wife is lousy when it comes to persuasion.

Speaker and motivator Charlie “Tremendous” Jones talks about persuasion. He says: All our lives we encounter persuaders. Those who were successful are largely responsible for the way we are. Because some of us are exposed to some positive persuaders we are drawn to become positive persuaders. I believe all successful persuaders are a result of having been successfully persuaded at some time in their lives.

What a strange world it would be if there were no persuaders. Life is one continuous series of persuasions. At home it is the parent persuading the child, the child persuading the parent, the salesman persuading the prospect, the lawyer persuading the jury, the boy persuading the girl or the politician persuading his constituency. And so on and on.

To be a persuader you must be persuaded and in order to continue to grow we must practice the art of persuasion. The old saying, “Nothing succeeds like Success,” fits the persuader perfectly. The earlier in life you begin, the fuller your life will become. It is only in sharing and giving that we realize what we have, and we can give nothing better than persuading others to worthwhile goals, right motives and eternal values.

I think it is safe to say that sometimes in our lives we will be persuaded to become positive persuaders seeking to give and share, or we’ll not be persuaded and spend the rest of our lives waiting for a break, taking and keeping.

I hope these thoughts on persuasion have increased your awareness of the great privilege and obligation of the persuader. The world needs one more positive persuader. It is you?

Jones is right on the dot. I’ve been featured in many of the country’s major business conferences and conventions and I have had people come to me and say, “I heard you speak 2 years a go and followed your advice. I read books, I exercise and I live my life correctly. I just want to thank you for changing my life.” It’s such a great thing. I have had people write me e-mails or fax me letters saying, “I had forgotten God and my life began to spiral downwards. Thanks for reminding me to return to Him.” And for me this is a great reward God has given me to confirm that what I am doing is within His Will and to encourage me to continue doing what I’m doing.

Be a positive persuader. Change lives.

The greatest witness to God’s Goodness is to live a life that shows it.

This Post Has 12 Comments

  1. Roland Abuan

    Thanks bro, indeed you’re a + persuader !

    ” We make a living by what we get, but

    we make a Life by what we give.” Winston Churchill

    Thanks+Best regards

  2. Josephine A. Banogon

    Thank you Sir for all your write-ups. I am able to read them through Mr. Randell Tiongson and our friend, Edmund Lao. They are very inspiring, really worth reading, full of reminders and advices. May God continue to give you the wisdom to always be an instrument in guiding people towards the right path in life.

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  4. victor hermosa

    your great sir francis!! sinusundan ko talaga yung seminar mo.
    very informative & inspiring.. keep up & god bless

  5. Espie Albelda

    Gosh! I learned BIG today! Thank you Sir and please continue to inspire us!

  6. Hello. It’s my first time here at your blog. I agree with you with your last words. “Be a positive persuader. Change lives.”

    This is one of the reasons why I also blog on Millionaire Acts that talks about topics on entrepreneurship, personal finance, investments and self-motivation – to inspire and educate people.

    I hope I can also attend to one of your seminars in the future.

    God bless po Sir.

  7. Ghil Tantoco

    Thank you sir, very inspiring,.

  8. Jo-Dann Darong

    F.Kong,Sir, I admit with no doubt,
    you have the penchant of persuasion!.
    Thank you for that.

    Actually, there are a lot of persuaders present. But we get no positives from them! If they can’t be positive, let us be!

    Jo, DepED-CSCA

  9. Catherine Tan

    Hello 🙂 Sir, you have no idea how many people look up to you! I am one of them. Ever since my English teacher, who’s also a professor at DLSU, told us about you, I started digging around…I have never seen such a great…speaker/inspirational writer.

    I’m all WOWs when it comes to you 🙂

    Keep persuading, keep changing!

    an aspiring speaker-writer from CKSC,

  10. Karen Israel

    The day I have realized that I’m good at public speaking, I was determined to strive to be at my best.

    The day I have realized that there are so many broken people just around the corner, I’ve decided to empower and inspire them. Sharing them some inspiring stories I have read from different books which I usually borrow from different people. I am really delighted whenever I see a positive result in their lives.

    I want to improve and help other people. I believe that in my own little way, I can be of great change.

    You know what Mr. Kong, I have seen your name in a newspaper featuring one of your seminars (I think…). Then, I have read those words that really caught my eye— ‘the greatest speaker of all time’ and ‘successful businessman'(if I was not mistaken). So I have decided to surf your name in the internet and coincidentally I have seen you in the Magandang Umaga Bayan.

  11. Ira Nadine

    Thank you for reminding me how important it is to persuade others in such a way I will be convincing to them and most importantly to myself!

    I was in a talk that you’ve given at the Manila Hotel and I am so impressed and persuaded by the encouragiing words and values that you have imparted to all nursing students like me. Thank you! More power!And may you continue to be a blessing to others.


    Appreciative Inquiry (AI)… looking at the positive side of life… capitalizing on what works..

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