Why Change is Hard

August 5, 2010

“Ah… change is hard and it’s not easy.” A famous line from the children’s movie that teaches adult lessons entitled: “The Lion King.”

Why is change hard? One would wonder.

SOCRATES says: “No man will change for the better until he sees the need for it.”

Famous athlete and motivational speaker Dr. Ola Madsen sent me a material that is very interesting. Listen to this:

People who succeed perceive failure as feedback. They use this feedback to change their strategy and take action again. They repeat this process over and over till they get what they want.

Dr. Ola is right. I have met leaders who would never admit mistakes. They pass the blame all over the place. Pointing fingers at people, pointing fingers at circumstances and never looking at themselves in the mirror. These are people who have pre-determined in their minds that they will defend the status quo to the death.

Here are some questions to ponder:

  • Why is it that so few people are willing to keep changing and taking action until they get what they want?
  • Why do so many people quit along the way?
  • Why do so many people even procrastinate in initiating action?

The reason is that while everybody desires to succeed, only a few are truly COMMITTED to their goals. People whose goals are nothing more than desires will only do whatever is within their comfort zone to achieve it. Beyond that, what they give themselves all kinds of excuses for not doing it.

Dr. Ola says:

5% of people are COMMITTED to succeed.

95% of people WISH, HOPE, WANT, LIKE TO succeed.

5% they make it a MUST to DO whatever it takes.

95% act within their comfort zone and give lots of excuses.

When a goal becomes a MUST we operate from a different mind-set.

I speak with HR people all the time. They say that change is difficult to achieve. It is actually not an organizational problem, it is a challenge that you and I need to face every day.

Do you know that there are 3 Certainties in Life:

  1. Death
  2. Taxes
  3. Change

And most of us can handle the first 2 better than the 3rd one.

Sometimes I think that the only change people like is dirty diapers. 🙂

Change is impossible unless people believe it is possible.

Now here is what I have discovered.

The reason why change initiatives in organizations do not succeed most of the time is because you cannot rally people to change through a wonderfully prepared PowerPoint Presentation. People change only when they could FEEL the need to change. This is why knowledge alone cannot accomplish goals. People need to buy in to the idea that the change initiative will be for their own benefit.

It’s amazing to see that what a person knows in his or her head does not translate to action unless the felt need is there.

This is why most people I know talk about their personal relationship with Christ and when I listen to their testimonies, the new found knowledge is there but there is a great emotional expression in there as well.

So, are you equipped with the knowledge to change but more importantly, do you feel the necessity to change as well?

This Post Has 8 Comments

  1. Rico

    One thing the Lord is leading me to change is how I handle conflict. My first response is to avoid it, and sweep any disagreements under the rug. I am learning conflict is a neutral thing, and if handled constructively, may win in better understanding between myself and the other party.

  2. Arnel Manas

    Very timely Sir, some people are very passionate in saying this word but you can’t see them acting on it, environments are keep on changing and we should learn from that. On the new change that we have right now, hope many people can read this, so that we can say that the need is NOW. Very inspiring, Thank you Sir.

  3. lani

    change is an inner-self acceptance to shift from one character to another depending on the “seen need” of a person. But truthfully, “what the mind perceive the body cannot achieve” (hmmm, sounds like a commercial).
    for me change is a never ending process – we are humans born for imperfections aren’t we? Yet, its up to our inner-self to make the composition of our human nature to be ONE simply to achieve what we had seen as need for ourselves & the people around us.

  4. Lea Gasmen

    I can relate to this article Mr. Kong,right now being a call center agent is just one step for me to invest something for the future, I just apply for 1 step again for me to be a sales coach, changes is rarely see but for me to see this beyond my imagination, I have to take action. Just like Jim Rohn said take a measurable progress in a reasonable time…Thanks for this article Mr.Kong

  5. jill

    I do agree sir that change is really the hardest to do that is because foremost men also fail to see the wrong in them…you are blessing to people, Mr. FJ Kong… through your articles you make us think and rethink… comprehend and reflect and be inspired to initiate change within ourselves! God bless you and your family. More power sir!… we need people like you in our midst- in this world where being liberal is equated to immorality. It’s one of my wishes to be able to attend one of your leadership trainings…

  6. ms jo

    am a breast cancer survivor, no chemo, no radiation.
    change helped me to overcome this ordeal.
    i changed my lifestyle, my diet and my priorities in life.
    i made the decision to change from within which is the most impt thing.
    i changed my perception towards life and stress producing people.
    without change, truly nothing will get better. Jesus wanted us to change for the better. Thank you sir francis, you had been mentoring me since i was 17, now am 42. keep on touching lives, more power and God bless.

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