Is It Really Love?

February 14, 2011

Prices for roses (and other kinds of flowers) will rise. Chocolates, cakes and pastries would probably run out of stocks tomorrow. Concerts in hotel ballrooms while fine dining restaurants reservations are full; it’s big business every Valentine’s Day especially in this love-craze country of ours.

But do we really know what love is?

What does Love Mean?

A group of professionals posed the question “What does love mean?”  To a group of 4 – 8 year-olds and the answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. Think about their remarks:

1. “When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.”

2. “Love is when someone hurts you and you get so mad but you don’t yell at them because you know it would hurt their feelings.”

3. “Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.” (I actually like this one.)

4. “Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss.”

5. “When you tell someone something bad about yourself and you’re scared they won’t love you anymore. But then you get surprised because not only do they still love you, they love you even more.”

6. “Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.”

7. “My Mommy loves me more than anybody. You don’t see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.”

8. “Love is when Mommy gives daddy the best piece of chicken.”

9. “Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.”

10. “I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.”

11. “I let my big sister pick on me because my Mom says she only picks on me because she loves me. So I pick on my baby sister because I love her.”

12. “Love cards like Valentine’s cards say stuff on them that we’d like to say ourselves, but we wouldn’t be caught dead saying.”

13. “You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.

What then is love?

Love is when you wish the best, do the best and offer to serve your best for the object of your love.

But the word love is greatly misunderstood.

You don’t use the word “love” if your sole intention is to consume.

You cannot actually say, “I love my chocolate cake” because you do not desire the best for your cake, you actually want to eat it. And so love here is your desire to consume for your own pleasure and delight.

But when an overseas Filipino worker says, “I love my children” and are willing to face the pain of hard work in a foreign country in order to earn a few dollars to feed them; you know that the love here is the desire to provide the best, do the best and offer themselves to serve the children the best and that’s true love.

“In our company we work as a family because we love our people…” Great line designed for employee or talent retention. But do you see the leaders in the organization wishing, doing and serving the object of their love?

True love on this “Love Day Celebration” should always serve as a reminder for the model of love when the Father sent the Son to die so you and I in Him may have life. Now that is wishing, doing and serving the best for the object of the Father’s love.

Happy True Love Day to all of you!

This Post Has 14 Comments

  1. Ricky

    Hi Sir Francis,

    Happy Valentines Day to you and your family.

    Upon reading lines 1 to 13 above, I also smiled 13 times. Doing these simple things yet very natural are something we can offer to the ones we love. Thanks a lot for reminding me these things.

    I salute our OFW kababayans for their sacrifices in showing their love to their children, for I am also a product of these proud Filipino workers. To the children left in the Philippines, please understand this kind of love that our parents are offering. Focus towards excellence, through this, we can respond to the love our parent’s offers.

    God Bless you more Sir Francis!

  2. dan

    Maybe this is the reason why I find it hard to say the words “I love you”. Maybe because I know deep inside these words are big and should go together with being responsible.

    Belated Heart day to everyone! =)

  3. Anna Krisela

    Sir Francis,

    Good day! I started to admire the way you talk and the things you talked about when you were invited in our company’s Midyear Conference in Davao. Atlast I saw your page! Thanks and continue to inspire!

    More Power and God Bless you! 🙂

  4. Jatot

    Worth reading! <3

  5. Jennifer

    Love is when left school sooner than you should to give way to ur brother, care for your sick father and making sure that ur nieces have formula milk hehehehe Then atleast ones every 2years you tell everybody that you’ll have a reunion and cook all your poultry animals for meals. Still you look back and say “I love my dysfunctional family and I’ll never give up for them”.

    I bought one of your books again Francis. It’s funny because every page I read seems like the book is really meant for me and it feels good to share it with others. Now, I realize that I want to be a radio DJ inspiring young people and helping them to be on the right track or a Teacher maybe…What do you think?

    By the way, after buying ur book I got this drink from Mondo Juice- Quench shake(not connected to them). I find it a perfect partner whilst reading.

    Till next time Sensei!

  6. leonel

    sir a blessed greetings to you!!
    upon reading your write-ups it really makes me think…….you’re such a prolific writer continue your good motives upon writing………..
    you are serving as a spring board for me and for the others to praise and be amazed how wonderful and glorious our GOD is…for making such a person like you,………………
    more power and pls.. add more a application on the spiritual side hehehe

  7. Jovelyn

    Hi Sir!

    Just attended ur speech this morning in our university (VSU, Baybay, Leyte) and ohhh I am so blessed to hear your inspiring words of wisdom.
    I thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us.
    You are the “the talk of the campus” after that very minute.
    Keep up the good work and God bless you and your family always.

  8. reynagine rabia

    wer inspire about your talk when your @ vsu
    iam one of those students listened to your inspiring thought bout life,love and study!!!!
    god bless!!!!

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  10. Sylferovic

    Sir Francis,

    All of us owe you the best praises.. Thank you for putting into words things that we should realize and apply to our lives.

    More power. Godspeed.

  11. jullian

    this one is one of the best. I remember when i was courting someone. she said i’m the most willing because i take the most risk just for her. I remember eating foods that i dont really eat but its the only way to be with her i choose to eat mais con yelo with her 🙂

    Thanks sir francis!

  12. kim

    hi sir Francis…I am one of the person that was blessed when you had your talked here in Bacolod City.Thank you for sharing your thoughts about the great meaning of love. May our great God be with you as you continue your ministry. God bless you and your family. continue to be the light in the Philippines.

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