What is a Father?

Somebody wrote this material and I simply added a little side comments of my own.

What is a father?

A father is a person who is forced to endure childbirth without an anesthetic.

He growls when he feels good and laughs very loud when he is scared half-to-death. He needs to be a picture of strength even though he may be scared and sad from the inside.

A father never feels entirely worthy of the worship in a child’s eyes. He is never quite the hero his daughter thinks. Never quite the man his son believes him to be. And this worries him sometimes. (So he works too hard to try to smooth the rough places in the road of those of his own who will follow him.)

A father is a person who goes to war sometimes…and would run the other way except that war is part of an important job in his life (which is making the world better for his child than it has been for him). Fathers grow older faster than other people, because they, in other wars, have to stand at the train station and wave goodbye to the uniform that climbs on board. And, while mothers cry where it shows, fathers stand and beam…outside…and die inside.

Fathers are men who give daughters away to other men who aren’t nearly good enough, so that they can have children that are smarter than anybody’s. I have two lovely daughters. As early as now I am in rehearsals. I do not want to cry on their wedding day. As I give them away, I will refuse to believe that I am handing over a lovely piece of valuable gem or jewelry that I have protected, sheltered and loved and now turning it over to a …….. gorilla!

Fathers fight dragons almost daily. They hurry away from the breakfast table off to the arena, which is sometimes called an office or a workshop. There they tackle the dragon with three heads: Weariness, Works, and Monotony. (and may I add another one – their lousy bosses…….) And they never quite win the fight, but they never give up. Knights in shining armor; fathers in shiny trousers. There’s little difference as they march away each workday.

And when Father passes away, and after a good rest, I suspect he won’t just sit on a cloud and wait for the girl he’s loved and the children she bore. He’ll be busy there too… excited and doing what needs to be done. Till he meets them all one day.

To all the fathers out there…… Happy father’s Day! The best inheritance you can leave your children is a life well lived and an example worth emulating!

8 thoughts on “What is a Father?

  1. tes guadarrama

    what a great message to share on Father’s Day! this is really something to think about… to see the view on the other side of the fence. indeed, sometimes, father’s are not as highly appreciated, maybe because of they have to be tough and strong most of the time and look so uncuddly… but i always believe they will always have a soft spot for their families.
    to all the fathers out there… happy father’s day!

    sir francis, may you have the greatest day on Father’s day! you deserve it! 🙂

  2. Angel Balboa

    Thanks for this very nice article, it’s just so sad that my father passed away when I was still young and I didn’t have the opportunity to show my care for him. But I know, where ever he is, he still protects and guides me and my family.

    Advance happy father’s day to Mr. Francis, please continue to be a great father to your family and to others as well.

  3. Cornel Bongco

    Thanks a lot po for this very inspiring message. A dad myself, I celebrate Father’s day for the reasons God gave us to celebrate. A loving godly wife and two wonderful godly daugthers. I realize that at the end of the day, the celebration is not about us Dads, but about these precious gifts that made us fathers, our wife and kids. Thanks for the thug in the heart. The inspiration and encouragement God gives through you is an investment in eternity for a lot of your readers. Hope to see you again one day and learn more from you.

  4. Balty Baltazar

    Hi, Mr. Francis,

    I always enjoy your articles, whether on print or on the radio, whatever the topic is. But I liked, most of all, your articles on Fatherhood. They show your passion to open the eyes of fathers their importance in the family.

    I also believe that fathers are influential in the families, not because I’m one myself, but because I’ve seen the disastrous consequences (to the children) of having “bad” fathers.

    I wish you all the luck, and hope that you succeed in educating us to become good and Godly fathers.

  5. Joanne

    Naiyak po ako. Siguro dahil sa dinamdam ko ang mensahe at dala na din ng pagmamahal ko sa Tatay ko.

    Salamat po sa patuloy nyong pagbibigay ng inspirasyon.

    Belated Maligayang araw ng mga Ama Ginoong Kong!

  6. Daphne

    Clicked on the link placed on your most recent blog and I was led to this article which your wrote a year ago. Thank you for this beautiful article that honors the best man in my life.

    This will be the first time in my 36 years that our family will not celebrate Father’s Day. Daddy passed away last April 5 and up to now I wonder how to get by each day, until I read the last part of your blog…

    “And when Father passes away, and after a good rest, I suspect he won’t just sit on a cloud and wait for the girl he’s loved and the children she bore. He’ll be busy there too… excited and doing what needs to be done. Till he meets them all one day.”

    Thank you for reminding me that we can still be together some day. It brings me comfort in believing that. God bless you.

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