My family is the total opposite of your family or even Bill Havens.

My dad, oh well, he didn’t grow up until now; not done yet with womanizing and whatever and he’s 50! (But i have been praying for him until now.) To date, he had 7 families and no child has ever been supported by him in any ways.

One great thing about my parent;s separation (let me call it great please) is, we became Christian.

My mom, now 45 , raised the three of us – all girls and now professionals graduating from reputable schools. Her position in the government takes away whatever little time that she has for us. She made a name due to her humanitarian efforts, helping the youth, becoming a great mentor, a leader and a true-blooded public servant but.. you know the rest of the story.

I perfectly understand that she has to work in order to provide for our needs and there’s no room for “family time” during my younger days. But i never complained, resorted to bad vices or wrong companionships. Instead, it motivated me to prepare for my future, praying for guidance, right direction and will of the Lord.

At 23, I have but one dream, and that is to have a Christ-centered family of my own.

Everyday, i am in a quest for becoming a woman of noble character.

Thank you for this inspiring story Mr. Kong.

The diaspora of Overseas Filipino Workers is continuing to ferment an explosive problem, that of a fatherless Filipino generation.

Sadly even the Sacred Scriptures confirm this in Malachi 4: 6 “And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse.” This, the last verse of the Old Testament, needs to be taken seriously especially here in the Philippines if we want the curse of a fatherless generation averted.

This is why everytime I am given an opportunity to speak to fathers regarding success, this area (success in the family) is given much emphasis.

Thank you for articles like these. Hope you can have a conference where this special reminder could be discussed at length.

Like Rhyme, your article and its lesson was a bitter pill for me to swallow. It’s not that I didn’t grow up without a father. It’s just that my father is not like you in looking at life and in making efforts to be a good role model for your children. It’s just that the mistakes he made…I also made and my relationship with my kids were severed. However, the situation does not mean that I have to remain depressed, guilty and hopeless. As pointed out in many of your articles – one must learn to forgive oneself for just being human and to accept that Jesus also forgave me for the sins and mistakes I made. I must not be too hard on myself but I must learn from my situation and prepare and do things to pave the way for the forgiveness of my children and to rekindle the relationship with them in the future by forgiving my father as well. I have to break the chains of repeating history in my family. The article you shared is relevant to me at present in learning from my past and as I prepare for the future. I pray to God for forgiveness and for strenght and guidance so as not to repeat the sadness and sorrow I caused in the hearts of my kids. God bless.

Respectfully,
Kenneth