A FRENCH PROVERB SAYS: “None so busy as those who do nothing.”
But what about being too busy all the time?
The truth is if you are too busy to relax, then you are too busy.
Technology is a big culprit behind the reason why we become so busy.
Just think about this: Do you remember the predictions about the paperless office and the leisure society? Between 1999 and 2002 global use of paper increased by 22% and we now seem to have less spare time than ever. We are also sleeping less than we used to, down from 9 hours per day in 1900 to 6.9 hours today. Indeed, the benefits of the computer age can be seen everywhere except in the productivity statistics, because we are inventing new ways of making ourselves busy.
Still, being too busy seems to be a badge of accomplishment and a picture of importance. When people invite me to give a talk I pull out my Iphone, check over my calendar and see my white spaces occupied with activities. People are impressed. They see how busy I am.
In fact there is a running rumor going around the corporate world that it takes them one year in advance to be able to get a booking from me. This is of course grossly exaggerated but it does take quite a few months lead time to have me schedule a date for a speaking or a training engagement.
And then I go home, exhausted and wondered how I could have packed so many activities in so short a time.
But this is not an exclusive condition for me.
The obsession with “busyness” can be seen in the way the work ethic has invaded childhood. Children must be kept busy at all limes. As a result, they are becoming overscheduled and we are cre¬ating a cohort that cannot think for itself, a generation of passive, risk-averse citizens and comfortably numb consumers with almost no imagination or self-reliance.
Children today are expected to do so many hours of back-breaking homework. And then rush off somewhere to do music lessons. And parents today feel that if they do not push their kids hard enough they may not succeed.
Watch what happens when summer season comes. Parents get paranoid and they feel nervous seeing their children idle. And so they enroll them in summer courses, sports programs, summer programs just to keep them busy.
Is busyness now an important element to life and living? Could we not get used to moments of quietness so we can pull our acts together? As I ask these questions I am actually asking myself.
Consider the following new terms:
TMI or Too much Information better known as information overload has a distant cousin, too much choice (TMC). In a nutshell, humankind is producing an excess of stuff. The amount of new information we produce today is estimated to be around 2 billion bytes annually. That’s (very roughly) 2 billion bytes or about 20 billion copies of a typical thick book. The average large corporation similarly experiences a doubling of the amount of information it produces annually.

Information is no longer power; power lies in the ability to attain and maintain attention. I am not an alarmist but what I want people to know is that the pace of life will continue to increase and we need to learn how to be quiet.
This is why my first hour of the day is spent on quiet time. Prayer and meditation of Scripture to bring sanity to my being.
Busyness may not be a good thing when it is done in excess.
Learn to be quiet. Learn to spend time in solitude as I certainly will this coming holiday season.
So don’t just do something, stand there or better still, sit down and be quiet.

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 February 11, 2012  Posted by Francis Kong at 11:00 pm Inspiration No Responses »

Feb 112012
 

From an anonymous source comes this beautiful material:
My face in the mirror isn’t wrinkled or drawn.
My house isn’t dirty the cobwebs are gone.
My garden looks lovely and so does my lawn.
I think I might never put my glasses back on.
One of the greatest impediments to progress is denial.
Be truthful at all times and be a disciplined person.

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 February 11, 2012  Posted by Francis Kong at 7:05 am Fun and Laughter 2 Responses »

Feb 092012
 

After she woke up, a woman told her husband, “I just dreamed that you gave me a pearl necklace for Valentine’s day. What do you think it means?”
“You’ll know tonight.” he said.
That evening, the man came home with a small package and gave it to his wife. Delighted, she opened it – to find a book entitled “The Meaning of Dreams.”
Don’t be a cheapskate. Show love and give love every day

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 February 9, 2012  Posted by Francis Kong at 6:51 am Fun and Laughter 3 Responses »

Feb 072012
 

And now more than ever, it’s important that we commit to a lifelong quest for knowledge. Things are changing so rapidly that unless we stay up on the learning curve, we will surely fall behind.
Knowledge will not acquire you: you must acquire it. Takes discipline to do this.

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 February 7, 2012  Posted by Francis Kong at 7:38 am Bite Size Wisdom 4 Responses »

Feb 062012
 

Complete the sentence. If at first you don’t succeed………Do not try again. Find out what went wrong. Correct the error and then try again. It’s crazy to continue doing the same thing over expecting a different result. Working harder on the same mistake is not a virtue. Humble yourself and find out where you went wrong. Then correct it and try again. This takes a lot of discipline to do.

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 February 6, 2012  Posted by Francis Kong at 8:42 am Bite Size Wisdom No Responses »
 

A teacher arranged her young students into a circle. She then went around the circle and asked each one a question.
“Robert, what sound does a cow make?”
Robert replied, “It goes ‘moo.’”
“Albert, what sound does a cat make?”
Albert said, “It goes ‘meow.’”
“Oscar, what sound does a lamb make?”
Oscar said, “It goes ‘baaa.’”
“Noel, what sound does a mouse make?”
Noel paused, and said, “Uhh … it goes … ‘click…click!’”
This is the age of technology
There was a time when mouse used to be a rodent and windows were fixtures inside your home. Today you have mouse, wireless mouse, mouse that operates with radio frequency, track pads is replacing the mice. Disruptive technology is here to stay. There was a time when it took a long time before a new product is accepted in the market place. Today the market eagerly awaits the launching of the next big thing in technology
I was giving a seminar then and people began to smile, some were giggling and a lot more of them began laughing. I asked, “What’s going on?” One brave soul responded and said, “Francis, you said we need to read books and we need to listen to tapes. But nobody listens to tapes anymore.” “Oh boy, “ I told myself, caught in a time warp. How could I have missed that?
After giving a talk, one lady approached me and said, “Francis I love your talk. Have you recorded it in a cassette?” “Cassette?” I half smiled but that’s exactly what happened to me. The only difference is that I said, “Tape.”
This makes me think. What has happened to the products of the past? The hits? The wonders? The breakthrough technology that made the world marveled? Products like:
The video recorder? (Circa 1983) The one with the flashing 12:00? Never figured out what that function was for anyway.
Brick (circa 1990) – I remember my first cell phone was a phone named ANTEL. Compare the size of that today to the newer ones my first cell phone was as small as my Coleman Water Jug. You charge the battery for 8 hours and you get to use it for only 2.
Cloning (same time) – The biggest worry at that time was not virus but cloning in an Analog platform not digital.
Let’s go back – way back. Remember phones had party-lines and you fight them all the time?
What about Caller ID (circa 1995) – Staring at a number that came in and you shock the callers by knowing it was them.
And for those who first saw the light in a hospital after 1990, a quick fad then was called the DAT. DAT stands for Digital Audio Tape. Sony Corporation introduced this in the mid-1980’s. This replaced the old cassettes that really lasted many years.
And the CD’s came into the picture and is now losing ground to Ipods and MP3 Players. A couple of years back I remember entering the last 2 days of Tower Record’s existence in America and everything in there was sold for just $2 and less. Today online music purchasing gains momentum everyday.
My son plays the drums for a popular band. He says that their first hit became a hit without a CD. It was placed on line and people here and even in places as far as Belgium and Germany listened to it.
Products of the past. I wonder why as I think about them the same products bring back memories of events tied to the same.
And what about future products?
I read about scientists and researchers developing the next generation paper battery. A supercharged battery that can be bent, rolled, twisted and cut to size like a piece of paper. It looks like the next great thing; a breakthrough technology which becomes today’s hit would in a short span of time quickly turn into tomorrow’s museum piece.
May I make a suggestion? Don’t be too much of a hurry in having to HAVE that new toy. You spend a great deal for it and then a few months later that “new” thing will be left with just the “thing” when the novelty of newness is gone. Just because you are using an old cell phone does not mean you’re second-class and old. It may mean you are frugal and practical that’s all.
Somebody says: “The world is getting complicated. Somebody just gave me a battery operated paperweight.” And you’re probably asking, “Paperweight? What’s that?”
Don’t let technology complicate your life. Live it simply but live it to the full. With or even without the latest technology.

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 February 5, 2012  Posted by Francis Kong at 9:23 am Motivation 1 Response »

Feb 042012
 

You like someone “BECAUSE” they have pretty eyes, nice smile, or an elegant nose. You love the person “EVEN THOUGH” they are not rich, a good cook, or can’t put the toilet seat down. Liking someone means that you are fond of their good traits and loving someone is that you accept that other person fully even though they are not always perfect. Liking and loving are different. Know the difference. It’s easy to like but it takes a lot of heart and discipline to love.

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 February 4, 2012  Posted by Francis Kong at 7:17 am Bite Size Wisdom 3 Responses »

Feb 012012
 

Totally enjoying the Leadership Class today and my appreciation to participants who came all the way from Mindanao just to attend my once-a-month 2-day Leadership Training Program at EDSA Shangri-La Hotel.

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 February 1, 2012  Posted by Francis Kong at 7:38 am Training Programs 2 Responses »

Jan 302012
 

The late business philosopher Jim Rohn says: Affirmation without discipline is the beginning of delusion. Every single successful professional or business person I have met is a disciplined person. There can’t be any exception to this rule.

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 January 30, 2012  Posted by Francis Kong at 8:30 am Bite Size Wisdom 2 Responses »
Jan 282012
 

Think about this. No matter how successful a man is in business, he is seldom as smart as his mother thinks, or as dumb as his mother in law says he is.
Somebody asks this question: “What is the difference between outlaws and in-laws?” And here is the answer: Outlaws are wanted.
We lovingly call her “Auntie Carmen.” If you want to talk about being a “people person” then Auntie Carmen surely qualifies as one of them. We met in church a couple of years ago and have become friends. She sent me this beautiful story that is credited to anonymity.
Once upon a time in China , a girl named Li-Li got married & went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn’t get along with her mother-in-law at all. Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law’ s habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly. Days and weeks passed. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation worse was that according to Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish. All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li’s poor husband great distress.
Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law any longer so she decided to do something about it. Li-Li went to see Mr. Huang who sold herbs. She told him about the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve her problem once and for all.
 The wise Mr. Huang thought for awhile, and finally said, “Li-Li, I will help you solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you.”
 Li-Li said, “Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to.”
Mr. Huang gave Li-Li a package of herbs. He said, “Li-Li, you cannot use a quick-acting poison kill your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious. Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up poison in her body. Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put a little of these herbs in her serving. Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspect you the day she dies, you must be very careful to act very friendly towards her. “Don’t argue with her, obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen.” 
 Li-Li was so happy. She thanked Mr. Huang and hurried home to start her murder plot against her mother-in-law.
Weeks and months went by and every other day, Li-Li served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She remembered what Mr. Huang said about avoiding suspicion so she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother. After six months, the whole household had changed. Li-Li had learned to control her temper and she hadn’t had an argument with her mother-in-law in six months. The mother-in-law now seemed a lot kinder and easier to get along. Her attitude toward Li-Li has changed, and she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in- law one could ever find. Li-Li’s husband was very happy to see what was happening.
So now Li-Li has a problem. The situation has changed but what about the poison inside her mother-in-law that would eventually kill her.
Li-Li rushed to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help. She said, “Mr. Huang, please help me to keep off the poison from killing my mother-in-law. She’s changed into such a nice woman, and I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her.”

Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. “Li-Li, there’s nothing to worry about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her.”


Now I want you to think about this. You will be amazed at how people would change when the change starts with you. And couldn’t it be possible that God is using other people to work on you?
Never forget. Behind every successful man stands…….a surprised mother-in-law.

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 January 28, 2012  Posted by Francis Kong at 9:36 pm Inspiration 4 Responses »